‘Why
do we lie?’ Have you ever found yourself asking this question before? None
of us like someone who lies, but still everyone does that. We all lie, all the
time. It causes problems, to say the least. So why do we do it? Is it because
we want to hide the truth from others? Why we worry about what other people
think? What's right for us maybe completely wrong for others. Is it because of
that we lie so that we don't have to convince them? Well, it’s quite difficult
to find a responsible answer for this particular question.
There
are lots of reasons that could motivate us to tell lies. Even though each
reason might be different than the other still all of them stem from one root
cause which is being unable to bear the consequences of telling the truth. We always want to
manage, enhance, protect and feel good about our perceived image/identities.
Do we lie to ourselves on purpose? No we don’t. We just lie to ourselves
on intention in the beginning and we keep repeating the lie to everyone until
we eventually believe it! The subconscious mind can be programmed by
repetition, that’s why we end up believing our lies after repeating the
story over and over.
And relationships are something on which life is built for anyone. Think of a life without relationship - with people, ideas, etc, how different it would be? And relationships are always in a flux. That creates problems for mind. And mind will do anything to be in control of these relationships. Lying is part of that process. For a mind that is alone, there is only silence.