Why do we lie?

‘Why do we lie?’ Have you ever found yourself asking this question before? None of us like someone who lies, but still everyone does that. We all lie, all the time. It causes problems, to say the least. So why do we do it? Is it because we want to hide the truth from others? Why we worry about what other people think? What's right for us maybe completely wrong for others. Is it because of that we lie so that we don't have to convince them? Well, it’s quite difficult to find a responsible answer for this particular question.

There are lots of reasons that could motivate us to tell lies. Even though each reason might be different than the other still all of them stem from one root cause which is being unable to bear the consequences of telling the truth. We always want to manage, enhance, protect and feel good about our perceived image/identities.

Do we lie to ourselves on purpose? No we don’t. We just lie to ourselves on intention in the beginning and we keep repeating the lie to everyone until we eventually believe it! The subconscious mind can be programmed by repetition, that’s why we end up believing our lies after repeating the story over and over.

And relationships are something on which life is built for anyone. Think of a life without relationship - with people, ideas, etc, how different it would be? And relationships are always in a flux. That creates problems for mind. And mind will do anything to be in control of these relationships. Lying is part of that process. For a mind that is alone, there is only silence.