The Rainbow of Misunderstanding

One of the hardest burdens to bear is being misunderstood by people we love. All of us at one point or another experience looking into the eyes of our friend and realizing that he or she simply does not see us the way we see ourselves, and probably never will.

We know ourselves, how our mind operates, our intentions, and nobody should have to explain that to another person especially friends. Friends should know one another to a point where they should never have to question the other. They could ask out of concern which is care and that is very much highlighted in my opinion. But after that question has been answered, it should no longer become a concern.

And so it is. We'd have to let it go and know that we'd done the best we could to be true to our values. Whether those who misunderstand you are strangers or family members, you have to choose what will drive your behavior: your own conscience or your fear of what others might think of you. Choose your conscience. It lives inside of you and goes everywhere you go. Tolerating the fact that others believe you are possessive/dishonest/unkind/stingy/rude (fill in the blank) is not easy. It takes a great deal of self-control not to retrace your steps and try to constantly explain yourself so that people might see you the way you see yourself. And it’s not practical.

When you feel that you have a problem with a friend or friendship, why do you not simply sit down and work it out? Why do you prefer to let the friendship die instead of trying to repair it? How can you just turn your back on to that friend? It seems to me that some people only remain friends as long as everything is perfect. As soon as a problem arises, they cut and run. Why are they such cowards? A single moment of misunderstanding is so poisonous that it makes us forget the thousands of beautiful moments spent together within a minute.

Perhaps, it’s something one friend said or did that hurt the other person or something they didn’t say or do when they should have. All we’ve to do is to talk. We need to talk to that particular one person whom we misinterpreted, instead of someone else. No one else can give lucidity other than that person.

In closing, I would like to say that cherish your friends for you never know when they will be gone.  Accept your friends for they are your friends for a reason.  Never neglect them, their thoughts, or feelings for they will know you are not the one to come to.